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Cjens75
Lewiston, ID · a month ago

My comment would be Your dress is beautiful I’m sorry I won’t see you in it’

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Carolyn Carrico Roach Bachan
Grand Rapids, MI · a month ago

I wasn't invited to my coworkers wedding but others were didn't bother me one bit

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William Shakespeare
Brooklyn, NY · a month ago

I watched this last night. Honestly, it's rude to ask whether one has been invited, but it's also rude for the co-worker to continue to discuss her wedding plans with someone she deliberately omitted from the guest list. So OP could have just said that she was tired of EVERY conversation being about the wedding, and could they talk about something else for a change. As it turned out, however, she got her wish, and is no longer plagued by her coworker's constant wedding talk. And for her coworker to have excluded her in such a way means they really weren't as close as OP thought, so even though it may hurt briefly, it's good that the mask came off and she knows who she's been dealing with all this time.

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Kookaloo4
a month ago

When she brings it up let her talk then go.."that's so cool..I'm going to XYZ that weekend and then talk endlessly about the cool trip you're taking"...even if you make it up. DO IT.

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Rachael Brewer
Providence, RI · 9 days ago

umm you can't control others leave!!!!

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Charlie Johnson
Londonderry, NH · 12 days ago

I got invited to a lot of weddings over the years from coworkers. They were all younger than I was, but that didn’t matter. I always got invited. One of them didn’t invite me didn’t phase me in the least I save money and then a week before the wedding he came to me and he said that he had a few cancellations that he really wanted me to come and I looked at him and he knew I was aggravated, but he says please come so I went. I had a great time but so you gotta overlook some of the stuff that’s only if so, many people they can inviteand once he got some rejection he invited me so I went and had a great time.

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Chris Lindsley
Oceanside, NY · 23 days ago

I would have been direct. who you invite is your business. but don't discuss it with me

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Thomas Guyton
Detroit, MI · a month ago

Interesting. Way back in the 90s, I had almost an almost opposite strange experience. A co-worker talked about his wedding during all of our breaks and lunches. All good. The week after his wedding, he was acting ice cold and finally told me he was "very offended that I didn't come to his wedding " I never got any kind of invitation. This guy assumed that our casual chats meant that I should come...strange AF.

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Micki Bookout
Dallas, TX · a month ago

I think it's best just to be honest. Tell her you're aware she invited other co workers to the wedding, so it makes you feel uncomfortable talking about her wedding plans. Say it politely, and if she reacts in a negative way, tell her you don't want any drama or hard feelings and walk away. Don't engage her in an argument, even if she tries.

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Mike
Elkhart Lake, WI · a month ago

not invited, consider yourself lucky.

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Joanne Osika
Lehighton, PA · 14 days ago

When she brings up the wedding, I would tell her your feelings are hurt that you're not invited & prefer not to discuss this topic. It could be an oversight that you didn't receive an invite.

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Gertie
Montvale, NJ · 14 days ago

You need to grow up.

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Krista Jones
Des Plaines, IL · a month ago

"I can't wait to see the pictures afterwards." This leaves it open for the coworker to either ask why she can't make it or realize she's talking to the wrong audience. Maybe (??) her name was on the list and the invitation got lost in the mail.

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Elizabeth Hardersen
Granby, CT · a month ago

So where's the plot twist where she was supposed to be invited and for some reason there was a glitch and she didn't get an invitation? The work friend winds up embarrassed because she's been talking about her upcoming wedding and didn't realize she skipped somebody by mistake.

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Sigma
Fairfield, OH · a month ago

I don't make friends at work, don't need or want the drama. I just do a great job work my hours and go home.

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Heff Gilson
Orlando, FL · a month ago

you need to say that while it's all good, you really don't want to talk or hear about an event you were Not invited to. that should signal her not to talk to you.

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Janie Hughes
Ridgeway, WI · a month ago

really the story is 8 years old

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NAME
New York City, NY · a month ago

When my kids were VERY little this would sometimes happen with kiddie parties. I would explain that not everyone can be chosen to go to ALL parties. Even at their own parties we can only afford a select number of family and a select number of friends. And sometimes it is just family. They were taught that there are boundaries right at a very young age. (As adults they now get this) And that this doesn't mean that you are NOT friends with the party kid. Still be NICE to them. You are still school friends. Maybe just not close party friends yet. Kindness counts. There are different kinds of friends. So when they grew up and are adulting and are not at every single wedding from high school, college and work going broke on gifts and bachelor and bachelorette parties and showers they are happy not upset they happily get it.

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Jan Balsinger
Ebensburg, PA · a month ago

Wah wah wah 😫

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TC Andrews
Albany, NY · a month ago

Oh my....the world stopped spinning because someone got left out and now their feelings are hurt.

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Cherise Hayes
Houston, TX · a month ago

get over it

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Karen S
West Warwick, RI · a month ago

Use distraction and change the subject. Never fails, but you need to plaster a big friendly smile on your face. How about them Red Sox? Are we getting any snow? Hey, let me tell you about my niece's scholarship!

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Barbara Cotton
Apache Junction, AZ · a month ago

ask her and if she says you are not invited tell her it is inappropriate to talk to you about it. if she persists cut contact.

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Melee
San Francisco, CA · a month ago

not invited. you'll still live

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Terry Moore
Spokane, WA · a month ago

When I was married (worked at a hardware store) I invited all the store employees to the reception only. Alot around my age came. Big party. Good memories. 8/4/84

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a month ago

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