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Therese Orlandi
Tracy, CA · a month ago

My husband’s has health issues and so many say they are going to come visit. I don’t appreciate they say they are coming and give me day and time and no courtesy call they just don’t show up. He gets so disappointed and I deal with him feeling he isn’t liked anymore. These are the ones that will come up after and say. “He is in a better place”. Basically they can just stay away. Cuz if that is all they can say, it is just to make themselves feel better and off the hook.

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Judo
Memphis, TN · 2 months ago

the ol mans dead and you worry about yourself?do that later and dont worry about your comfort so much.

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MamaGus74
Mora, MN · a month ago

I lost my dad two years ago on thanksgiving morning unexpectedly and my heart broke because he was gone and because my mom was left to deal with everything. The pain of losing a loved one is real and yes it did give me great comfort believing that he was with the Lord and was no longer suffering and the fact that he will always be with us in our hearts and memories. It is not selfish to just want a hug because that is what we the loved ones left behind need. We already know the one who passed is still living in spirit and it’s their physical life that has ended so wrap us in hugs to help comfort us because we need that more than words.

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Dinah Kruppa
Covington, LA · 2 months ago

She is right. Expressing empathy is better. Tell the bereaved a good memory you have of the deceased and that you will miss him too That is easy to do.

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Maricia Wilson
Branchville, NJ · 25 days ago

There is one thing you can say ? that if you need help or anything you need a hand please call me an I will be there for you ? 🥰🥰💕🙏👍🙏Amen

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GOD_ IS_GOOD
25 days ago

AMEN, AMEN, AND AMEN. WORRY ABOUT THE LIVING. GOD BLESS HER.

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Maricia Wilson
Branchville, NJ · 25 days ago

The best thing you can say is are you okay if you need anything all you have to do is call 🌸💕🙏

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Scott
a month ago

In our culture, we are afraid of death. We do everything we can to avoid the subject. When death confronts, we don't know how to act or what to say. People say, "I'm sorry for your loss," "he's in a better place," "she's no longer suffering," and so on because we don't know what to say. People want to offer comfort. You could try taking their words in the way they mean them.

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Valreee
Alabama, NY · 16 days ago

exactly what people.said when my husband and my.dad passed.

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lmcnutt52
Fort Wayne, IN · a month ago

When my husband died I found myself comforting other people.

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Joyce
Memphis, TN · 23 days ago

people don't know those words aren't comforting until they go through it themselves. I have been throughbit

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Shannon Hollis
Ann Arbor, MI · 22 days ago

I feel so much for you. I'm felling the same thing after 4 years. still lost and confuse in this whole mess 🤨

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Jennifer Dupree
North Fork, CA · 22 days ago

I found that ppl just don't know what to say . it's not done in malice . they want to help and comfort you . make them freezer meals , run errands , help with household chores , simple things done in silence

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Ester Carr
Linneus, ME · 25 days ago

You are so right. When my husband passed someone embraced me, they didn't say anything. Words were too painful. Many years have passed since that day; however, the embrace stays with me.

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Deena Reyes
Rome, GA · a month ago

I totally agree

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Mary Rutledge
Fort Myers Beach, FL · a month ago

so true.

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MWMDTexas
El Paso, TX · a month ago

So true!!!

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Jewel Howard
Seattle, WA · 2 months ago

if it's no comforting don't say anything

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Dale Sadler
Los Angeles, CA · 2 months ago

that's true and real talk 😅

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Purplely
Lone Tree, CO · 2 months ago

exactly correct. it does not make a griever feel any better, actuality worse, depending on the circumstances.

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john Mosure
North Webster, IN · a month ago

when someone you love dies...most people remark.. sorry for your loss..it's so impersonal ..tell them Big Hugs ♥️

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Beth Richards
Port Huron, MI · 2 months ago

words well spoken

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Blue Mom
Benton, AR · 2 months ago

Correct

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Sixx Wright
Englewood, CO · a month ago

Indeed

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Pam Roberts
Brookings, OR · 2 months ago

First there is absolutely nothing you say to her to make it better. If you paid attention she ended up comforting others.

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William
Warroad, MN · 2 months ago

Funerals are for the living

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Jennifer Locker
Providence, RI · 2 months ago

RIP KIMBERLY 🙏 😭😭😭

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Stephanie Suzanne
Indiana, PA · 2 months ago

Other things people say: “How are you?” “He’s in a good place.” “Hope you’re doing well.”

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Jacqueline a declue DeClue
Sulphur, OK · 2 months ago

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