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Javier
Compton, CA · 7 months ago
HOT

no, you don't get no reward as a mother. That's what you are supposed to do. Child support is what it is called child support, not mother support. That's the problem some women got it twisted

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Dezy 🩷
Las Vegas, NV · 6 months ago

My babydad sends me 500$ or 400$ here and their and it literally goes all on them I do my own hair nails makeup I never touch my kids money if it was sent for them I use it on them no questions asked

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PeppermintTea
7 months ago

Child support is for the kids. PERIOD. You’re not a babysitter, you’re a parent.

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Mandee Sey
Montville, CT · 7 months ago

I'm a mother and I must say life choices all have repercussions..... u bare the child that's just what it is help or not we always gon have to be the main provider that's why u don't have kids if u ain't ready to be the sole provider .....that's why I got 1 and stopped there lol n I ain't never received no child support either smh 🙄🤦🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️🤣💪🏿👊🏿🙌🏿

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Lee Maldonado
Phoenix, AZ · 4 months ago

a reward??? for doing your duty as a mother is ridiculous.!

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Brandon Sauder
Saint Paul, MN · 6 months ago

na your taking them to school because you either one the custody in court or you cheated on your man and said it was his

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Eric Smith
Charlotte, NC · 7 months ago

Who let him hit it rawWho laid down Go get them kids

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Syria Watson
Eclectic, AL · 7 months ago

You want a reward for doing the bare minimum? What?

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Camron Boykin
Clemson, SC · 6 months ago

and who's fault is it that you have the kid youra

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Terry Temples
Pharr, TX · 6 months ago

the reward for raising your kids is the reward

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Fredd Poole
Piedmont, SC · 6 months ago

and yall want men to have kids

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Tina Lovely
New Port Richey, FL · 6 months ago

she got a point

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GemForGem
Erie, PA · 7 months ago

Honestly, to understand her, you really have to step out of your own gender role. If a father wakes up and decides he doesn't want to be a part of the family anymore, he can leave, np. Mothers have to pick up the pieces and keep life as it was when the father was in the home. Child support isn't always enough so many times, mothers are doing more than what the court ordered to make ends meet and STILL have to take care of themselves. Some do abuse it, but others do deserve "the reward"...smh

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Fggn STACKED
Greeley, CO · 7 months ago

I agree with the mom. She didnt say it very elequently, however, she is only responsible to be doing all of those things half the time. The other half of the time it's dad's job. So mom deserves a break. Her point is is that she is having to do a ton more work on Dad's time so she should be paid for that. On her time, yes it's her responsibility to do those things and she should be happy to do those things we can for her children however, if she's having to do a ton of extra work because dad's not watching them as often as you should then she is not supposed to be considered a childcare worker for Dad because she had to pay somebody to wash them. She would have to pay them. But she's doing it herself so she's paying herself. Makes sense to me.

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DONTBEASHEEP
Moreno Valley, CA · 7 months ago

She needs a reward for taking care her of her own children that she decided to have with a man she obviously couldn't get along with.. so why do women like this feel entitled to a reward for taking care of her own kids?

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👆ThisIsMySafetySir
Chicago, IL · 4 months ago

This is the problem with people today. Thinking you get a reward for being a responsible adult.

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DontMessWithTX
5 months ago

We can look at her and tell she’s eating £200. Because she weighs more.

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im@listening
York, PA · 7 months ago

The kid is the reward

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Bruce Nichols
Reading, PA · 4 months ago

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH HER

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HoggyBear Thoughts
Philadelphia, PA · 7 months ago

I hope her BM takes this to court and gets his child support reduced. Sounds like she only needs 800 months for child support.

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Miss me with that
6 months ago

it's not a reward. It's a reimbursement.

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Noone Noone
Newport News, VA · 7 months ago

He didn’t hear one word that was said.

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Donna Rice
Detroit, MI · 7 months ago

I'm sorry I'm a woman and I can't agree with that if that money is supposed to be spent on the child all $1,000 of it goes to the child you don't get a reward for being a mother except for once a year and that's on Mother's Day and you got to wait a few years before your child is old enough to get you a Mother's Day present cuz he doesn't owe you one

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David Martin
New York City, NY · 7 months ago

and that is the exact thought process of a woman who feels the need to get revenge for something. She will also poison the mind of the child against the father.

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mokuss Shiver
Valdosta, GA · 6 months ago

selfish. use your own money

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Michelle Barnes
Portland, OR · 7 months ago

That's why these women get pregnant. So someone else can pay for their lifestyle.

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Jayla henry
Pleasant Hill, CA · 5 months ago

an he as a father should get a reward too...Ur nails n hair done isn't a priority and not for the child benefit..child support is to support UPKEEP of child...Not babymama

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Adrianna Eagle
Newport, KY · 6 months ago

You don’t get an award for doing something you’re obligated to do.

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Larry Selvage
Paintsville, KY · 7 months ago

no not get an award but with everything she does she deserves to be treated every now and then

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Robert K. Lee
Washington, DC · 7 months ago

she deserves a reward for taking care of her OWN kids??🤔

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Nito Gambino
Riverview, FL · 6 months ago

wtf ..this is a global epidemic damn

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Darnella Coates-White
Trenton, NJ · 7 months ago

Honey you really got it twisted that baby didn’t ask you to get here you did that on your own. The price YOU pay. Your decision own it. You created the scenario.

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Mark Carlisle
Salt Lake City, UT · 4 months ago

if she wants money for her nails she should get a job and pay for her own nails the dad shouldn't pay her to do a job she is supposed to do. he has to pay financially she has to pay with the physical labor part. money for the child should never be spent on a parent PERIOD!

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Bad Man Vic
Pharr, TX · 4 months ago

There’s always two sides to every argument. That’s all I can agree on. There’s no right or wrong way to provide for your kids. Unless you’re not providing at all.

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Lisbey Hernandez
Lakeland, FL · 6 months ago

I hate hearing woman talk like that... like being a mother bothers them ... bro that's your legacy your baby... your reward should be seeing them flourish ✨️

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Joseph Owens
Washington, DC · 5 months ago

Joint custody changes all of this trust me man if you got your own place and you pay your own bills already just get joint custody. You won’t have to pay the baby mama nothing you got the child on whatever time you pick to get the child. She got the child whatever time she picked to get the child. You don’t have to give her anything cause the child stays with you just like the child stay with her so women who think like this please just get a life

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Miko Mayer
Seattle, WA · 5 months ago

no!! that money is for the child! child support!!! I understand if you take like maybe 50 bucks and save it for some Starbucks but it is for the children!! not you so you can go take care of things for you! make your own God damn money. this is pathetic. it is your job to take care of them, if you didn't think that that is how it should be, you could've given them up for adoption. I am disappointed in some mother's these days, smh

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gooby
4 months ago

I get it that a mother wants to treat themselfs but the thing is there is no such thing as a reward for being a mother. You put them in this world… that should be ur reward

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Azuradee Lindsey
Norfolk, VA · 7 months ago

You deserve to get a job and pay for the things you personally want. You don't get a reward for taking care of your kids...Thats what you're supposed to do.

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BigDawg
Brooklyn, NY · 3 months ago

ew this video is disgusting but little girls will agree with this beast

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bingbong
Colorado Springs, CO · 3 months ago

child support should not be mandatory in states that allow abortions to occur

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Lyndon Matthews
Alexandria, LA · 3 months ago

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 stupidest thing I've heard all day

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Bryan Seahawks
Covington, WA · 3 months ago

yeah wait till it's all done thru an app where they can monitor your spending for the child. to determine proper child support

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Noe Garza
Sandersville, GA · 3 months ago

that female is a sad example of a mom

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skinwalker777_
Louisville, KY · 3 months ago

omg i hope none of these men in the comments have kids.. and if they do i bet they paying child support 😭

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skinwalker777_
Louisville, KY · 3 months ago

in one ear and out the other Jesus christ he could have atleast tried 😭

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A_Weird_Mom
3 months ago

um... no. that money goes to the child. it is not his responsibility to pay for her nails. you dont gwt rewarded for being a parent. period

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Elias Montalvo
3 months ago

funny because if quotes allowed more fathers to raise their kids instead of giving them to the mother because she's the mother they will be listening for child support because no self-respecting man will go and put his baby mother on child support if he can handle with himself

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Elias Montalvo
3 months ago

no money given to you for the kids to go to the kids that is why fathers now don't want to provide

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Brandi Casey
Jeffersonville, IN · 3 months ago

she crazy

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AlphaDan2.0
Los Angeles, CA · 3 months ago

I didn't know being a mother comes with a reward 😂

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jamal griffith
Deerfield Beach, FL · 3 months ago

shameless thinking. you broke up the nuclear family and made yourself a single mother and you want to be rewarded by taking money from your child? grow up.

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Londell Fields
Arlington, TX · 4 months ago

well when the kids come stay with me make sure you drop out like you expect the dad to do.

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Dmv Trannylover
Marlton, NJ · 4 months ago

no money give up custody if taking care of kids is a I problem 5050 month on month off week on week off I r whatever. kids are not a paycheck

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Guess
Philadelphia, PA · 4 months ago

😂😂😂😂

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Ben Bergeron
Lakeville, MN · 4 months ago

and those are the women you never should have kids with. that answer defines an undateable, undesirable woman who should be single for life and never be trusted to even babysit for children.

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Harvey Cissell
Elnora, IN · 4 months ago

well at least she gave em 800.. my ex spent it all on meth

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Mischelove Martin
Leesburg, FL · 4 months ago

no you think saying 800 towards the kids is just perfect though if my baby daddy gives me a $1,000 for the kids then it's for the kids you took from out of your kids mouth it's your responsibility to take care of them and his as well and you're telling him how much he's going to do and take care of you too well who takes care of him and I'm just saying

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Tiffany Ramos
4 months ago

It's to be expected and understood that when you have children they're going to take up all your free time and resources. Your not going to get a break for at least 18 year's. Being rewarded for something you mutually agreed on is not a justification to spend money that belongs to the care of your child. if you want extras for youself you need to obtain those extras with a supplemental job that you can implement for those extras.

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