Constantly rewriting the past to avoid accountability. We each had 8 grand and she spent hers on drugs and hotels to sleep with other men, girls, and boys. I didn't know this at the time, I just knew she spent it. I told her I was thinking bout using my money as a down payment on a house, THINKING NOT AGREEING OR EVEN DISCUSSING IT. Ended up buying a car for my kid, she did not like that, or the fact that I wouldn't buy her a Boba drink. Took a while to learn she in drowning me in her narcissist